My Wife Is Japanese and I just went through the entire process.
No I Didn't like it!
Yes, It Is Confusing as Hell.
Yes, It Is Expensive ($4,300 to be exact).
What I did do is contact an immigration lawyer before entering the country with my fiance'. Then followed my lawyer's directions to the letter and let the lawyer handle the particulars. My wife and I did get married, (also had a kid) and start to finish (her receiving her permenant residency card) took 9 months.
Difficult?
Yes!
Impossible to do on your own - Damn Right It Is!
Hire a lawyer and do it legally. All others go the fcuk home and quit messing up my country!
In my opinion, it is not "messing up my country." The thing is, like it or not, a significant portion of our economy rests upon the cheap labor that illegal immigrants provide. I think that if they were able to do it by the book efficiently, at moderate cost, and were given the opportunity to pay taxes they would. Realistically, do you think that every illegal immigrant is so dishonest that they don't want to pay taxes? I don't think so. I think they are afraid of being caught, so they try to maintain as low a profile as possible.
Looking at the problem logically creates an interesting perspective on the "problem." It is estimated that there are between fifteen and twenty million illegal immigrants in this country, the fact that we devote so much time, resources, and legislation to a group that makes up about five percent of the US population is incomprehensible to me. If the government spent as much time on reforming tort laws to bring malpractice, and thus, healthcare costs down as they do on illegal immigration, we could have a working solution to that problem.